Managing Relationships and Parents

Dear Doris,

My wife continually badmouths my parents who we hardly ever see and live 500 miles away. Needless to say I don’t feel very close to my wife when she does this.

How can I get her to stop?

Tell her you love her but you also love your folks. Each time she bad-mouths them, she chips away at your good feelings for her.

In other words, she’s killing your love for her by bad-mouthing your folks.

Or as the saying goes, “Death by a thousand duck bites.”

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