Facing the ongoing stress of repeated mass shootings at schools, many parents are looking for guidance on how best to discuss the problem with their kids.

Before beginning the conversation, it’s important for parents to ensure that they have their own support system in place and take advantage of it. Parents who first deal with their own fear and anxiety will be able to speak more effectively with their children.

Experts also recommend limiting a child’s media exposure. This is particularly important for younger children, who may become anxious after observing graphic images.

Children should be encouraged to ask questions, and parents should try to address them as honestly as possible.

It can also be helpful to let the child know that it’s normal for them to feel fear, worry, anxiety, and other uncomfortable emotions — and that they should feel safe sharing those concerns with parents and other adults that they trust.

If a child is afraid to go to school, remind him or her that teachers, principals, and other school staff are trained to keep them safe. Also be sure to review safety and emergency measures like locking doors, calling 911, hiding, and listening carefully to teachers.

If a children seem overwhelmed by the events or refuse to return to school, consulting with a counselor or other mental health professional can help them get through the crisis.